We can go to great lengths to teach you the right foods you should eat to boost your sex life or the fitness that you’ll need to handle that sex, but there are some serious myths going around that desperately need to be busted about what goes on beneath the sheets. The following are the top sexual myths you shouldn’t believe:
1. Nothing destroys the self-esteem of a man who is a little less than average more than hearing the #1 sex myth that size matters. The truth is that only the lower 1/3 of a woman’s vagina has hyper-pleasure nerves. Her elusive G-spot is only about an inch or two inside her vagina and her clitoris, otherwise known as the button o’ pleasure, is located just outside the vagina. Doesn’t matter, dude, you got more than enough. Besides most women are more into the foreplay. If you can please a woman there, you’ve got it made in the shade. Sexual enthusiasm surpasses any gifted parts or otherwise. Contrary to another popular myth, your penis size has little to do with the size of your hands and feet.
2. Of course it’s safe to say that size doesn’t matter is also a myth. The more well-endowed goes don’t have it any easier. Compare it to mowing a lawn with a tractor in that you can cover more ground with less effort. Granted it takes a lot of fuel to power a tractor. Size may not be a hurdle to jump for great sex but it’s still a factor nonetheless. This is particularly true mentally. An anonymous woman was quoted as saying, “It doesn’t matter in my own head, but it’s still nice to see a big manly man that comes well-equipped.”
See More on XYfactors 3. With all the doggy-style, reverse cowgirl, and even oral sex, you will probably believe that missionary sex is boring. Nope; missionary sex is more common in porn flicks because it’s the hardest to film. This position is the standard for the vast majority of couples because it can be sustained for several minutes. Or for you freaks, several hours. Naturally sustained pleasure is the key to mutual stimulation.
4. Some people think that women love being on top because they finally get to let loose and really dominate their man when the roles are reversed. In reality, the optimal position for a woman to have an orgasm is either lying on her back or on her stomach. So, guys, if you don’t want your woman on top, then get rid of that position and pretend you never heard of it. They get more satisfaction from man on top as much as you’d rather be on top.
5. Whoever assumed it’s automatically the man’s fault if his woman doesn’t climax? Only 30% of women claim to have vaginal orgasms. When you factor in the willingness and the diversity of the clitoris, along with the psychological condition known as frigidity, we begin to wonder if it’s a miracle a woman can have an orgasm at all. You and your woman should know it’s no one’s fault if she doesn’t orgasm. Once you do it’ll take the pressure off and transform the dynamics of your sex life from a simple challenge into a journey of mutual exploration.
6. Every guy has laid the claim the he was the best at giving head with the woman saying, “Dude, I’m just that good! Trust me!” A woman having a clitoral orgasm just from oral sex is actually less challenging than getting a guy to orgasm from oral sex. Becoming a pro at oral sex is akin to being the world champion at Ski Ball. There’s also the myth that oral sex is safer. This isn’t true because there is still an exchange of fluids.
See More on XYfactors 7. The myth of the male G-spot is likely one myth that’s true with all the anecdotal and scientific evidence that backs it up. Most guys don’t need, or want for that matter, a stray finger up their up his ass just to have an orgasm. Men may be more perverted than women but they would probably rather be eunuchs than go that far. Well, that might be a myth in and of itself. Having sex with a woman is complicated enough with her mythical anal probe.
8. Women supposedly know what they want because they know their own bodies more than the man does. Nay! They know what feels good but have no clue as to how to get there. And of course they are too scared to ask for directions. Guys assume your rightful positions and take the lead. Just remember to vary it up and keep things different. If you’ve got the skills, and the confidence, you will get there.
9. Contrary to certain myths, women are not natural porn stars. If you want the girl to gaze into your eyes, don’t copy that last scene in the porn flick you and your buddies watch. Cum tastes bad and burns their eyes!
See More on XYfactors 10. Women lose interest in sex when they pass menopause? Not hardly! Women maintain their hormonal balance and interest in sex all the way through menopause. They just don’t have to worry about menstruation or pregnancy beyond those years. On top of that, they’ve been around the black a few times so they know what they want. Sex has the potential to be better than ever since spontaneity can reign supreme without fear of pregnancy. Whether you’re male, female, or both, a sexual relationship is an important aspect for your physical and emotional health and well-being for adults of all ages, even when you’ve passed your golden years. Libido usually decreases with age but that usually comes from many other physical, mental, emotional, and physiological factors.
11. Testosterone is important with both men and women for sexual function and libido, but it’s not the only hormone. Estrogen is also an important hormone for desire in both couples. Also if your cortisol, or the “fight or flight” hormone gets too high it’ll work against your libido. The result being you’re not going to be interested in sex if you feel like you’re running for your life; even if figuratively.
12. Another big myth is that sex and libido come easily if it’s true love between you two. This is partly due to the way relationships are portrayed in TV and in the movies where two people meet, sparks fly and next thing you know they’re taking off their clothes with mind-blowing sex follows. It’s just not that easy in the real world as the human body doesn’t come with an instruction manual. In other words, the “tricks of the trade” you learned with a previous partner won’t always work with someone new. It takes a lot of time and energy to make a real connection in a relationship. They require just as much attention to pursue as anything else you are passionate about. If you keep your partner and their interests high on your priority list, you will naturally think of new ways to connect to keep that passion alive. Good communication and a willingness and openness about trying new positions and techniques is the key even though it may feel awkward over-communicating; however the outcome is a partner who knows how to do it right every time.
See More on XYfactors 13. It’s a myth to think that just because you’re healthy you will want sex all the time. There’s a wide variety in libido or sexual appetite that exists so there’s no need to constantly compare yourself to others. You know you are having the right amount of sex if the two of you are happy with your current level of activity.
14. You shouldn’t have to ask for what you need? B.S.! A healthy relationship knows how to communicate about what makes the other person feel good. This is really true when either couple is entering a new phase in life; i.e., menopause, andropause (male menopause), childbirth, etc. Any changes that go on within either one of your bodies needs to be conveyed to the other person. After all, what affects one does involve the other person.
15. You’ve probably heard the most important sex organs are “way down south”. In reality, your most important sex organ is your mind. It’s your decision to think and choose how you feel about sex and your sexuality and however desirable a man or a woman feels about themselves is a very potent aphrodisiac. Passion in contagious so if you see yourself as irresistible, then your partner will find you to be completely irresistible.
See More on XYfactors 16. Just because you don’t have a sexual partner doesn’t mean you can’t have a libido. The most important love relationship is with yourself, or a Higher Power if you’re spiritual and then yourself. If you feel sensual and desirable, it will add many dimensions to your life as it takes practice to learn what turns you on as well as what a potential mate finds arousing. You can learn what pleases you even when flying solo so that you can teach your partner someday.
17. Low libido is a sexual desire disorder that is frequently common in women but does exist in men as well. There are usually some physical causes to this like alcohol, medication, stress, hormonal imbalances (particularly testosterone), drug abuse, brain tumors which produce the hormone prolactin and other cancerous diseases, and diabetes. Hormonal imbalances include low testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, etc. However there are physical causes such as vaginal pain (vulvar) which is a dryness that causes increased frustration that leads to lowered libido. Surgery for certain major health conditions or arthritis can also reduce libido.
18. It’s been rumored that men have more sexual urges than men and can be ready to go 24/7. The truth is that the male libido fluctuates several times a day. The same readiness to hop in the sack can be impacted by the same factors; i.e., health, medical conditions, stress, self-confidence, relationship harmony, diet, sleep, etc.
See More on XYfactors 19. You may have heard that Viagra is the miracle drug and it’s the answer to a couple’s sexual problems for men that have erectile dysfunctions, along with other oral medications. In reality, most men don’t see this as a viable option or an effective remedy. The drugs are usually a quick-fix to an underlying issue that a physician can get to the bottom of. Some men can’t even take oral medications if they have health conditions like diabetes, hypertension, or because of the side effects from other drugs, and/or contraindications with other medicines. Other options include urethral suppositories and an ICP injection that will produce an erection within a matter of minutes.
20. Aphrodisiacs are a label given to “mood foods” and named for the Greek goddess of love and sensuality. However, there is no scientific evidence that there is validity to any aphrodisiac even though certain foods make you feel L’amor; such as strawberries, dark chocolate, oysters, and tiger penis. There’s absolutely no food and/or herbs that can cause any type of arousal or a food that can trigger mental erotica or desire. To sum it up, to each his/her own aphrodisiac.
21. Ever heard that premature ejaculation only affects young men who’ve never been laid? While this problem begins at the beginning of sexual maturity, it becomes an issue later in life. Premature ejaculation affects 30% of men at any given point in their lives. In many cases premature ejaculation that happens in men above the age of 30 is often an indicator of erectile dysfunction, fatigue, depression & anxiety, poor cardiovascular condition, and other neurological symptoms.
See More on XYfactors 22. Another laughable myth is she can’t get pregnant if he pulls it out fast enough. Given the fact that out of millions of little sperm it only takes one so even a man with a low sperm count can knock a woman up, a man can’t guess when he’s about to “explode”. Also, can you really see a man “pulling it out” when he’s experiencing intense pleasure coming on? One out of every five couples who try this method as a sole source of birth control end up getting pregnant within a year.
23. Think your woman can’t get pregnant the first time? During any given sexual encounter a woman has a 1 in 20 chance of getting knocked up; first time or otherwise as long as she’s ovulating. Also a woman can get pregnant before her period as she actually starts ovulating 14 days before her period. Also you can’t be too old since there have been cases of older women becoming pregnant. Remember the woman who had septuplets at 63?
24. Contrary to the myth that showering, bathing, or douching can prevent pregnancy, this is not an effective method of birth control. Reason being that you cannot cleanse yourself quick enough to stop an egg from being fertilized; even if you jump in the tub right after sex as by that point the sperm has already came in contact with the egg. Urinating doesn’t work, nor do sprays or deodorant vaginal suppositories. The last two can actually be quite harmful. Coca-Cola can kill sperm but it’s not recommended you douche with it because you can cause damage to your reproductive track.
See More on XYfactors 25. Many couples have sex during the woman’s menstrual cycle thinking the woman can’t get pregnant. Usually they aren’t ovulation during this time period but if a woman has a short or irregular cycle, then they can ovulate during this period. Not to mention that sperm can live in the woman’s body for up to a week so even if you have sex mid-cycle she can still get pregnant as soon as she starts ovulating again if it’s a week later.
26. While there are many side effects to taking the Pill, it’s a myth birth control pills cause cancer. Planned Parenthood reports that only 1/3 of all women who take the Pill have the chance of developing ovarian, breast, or cervical cancer. Protection against these disorders increases every year and lasts up to 30 years upon stopping the combination pill.
27. Whoever thought using Saran Wrap could replace a condom? Don’t try to use toothpaste to replace spermicide or a balloon (wrong rubber). If you want to get kinky and wrap yourself in Saran Wrap and spank each other, then that’s a different story.
See More on XYfactors 28. Believe it or not, some people try to jump up and down and fake coughing and/or sneezing to dislodge sperm. By the time you get out of bed and do this you are likely already pregnant so this is a good way to bring on a miscarriage before you even find out you’re pregnant. Some women try to place objects such as seeds or plants in their vagina thinking this will block the sperm and prevent conception. The only potential this has is the chance of harming the woman’s body.
29. Stand-up sex can avoid pregnancy. Not likely! Sex is sex. It doesn’t matter how much you do it or in what way, shape, or form.
Now that we’ve looked at some of the top myths when it comes to having sex, you are ready to have the best sex of your life. Sex is an enjoyable bodily function and not merely a necessity. Have fun!
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